Into another person shoe
“Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep.”
Romans 12:15 NLT
Empathy should be a characteristic of the Christian people. Is said to “empathy is the ability to put yourself in the place of another and know what she/he feels or even what she/he may be thinking”.
But to identify with others until this point, is not something automatic, is not an overnight event. It implies that we have invested time and effort in cultivating relationships in an intentional way. Interest in others in this way often means putting in the background our desires, interests, and our plans, but it will be something that will be done enthusiastically and not reluctantly.
Be happy with those who are happy, means feel joyful when the other wins, when the other gets something, even when if she/he gets something that we have desired and that we haven’t reached yet; but it is not a social joy or “teeth” rejoice only, is a joy that is born in the depths of our being.
Weep with those who weep, is feeling the pain that feel the other person; it doesn’t mean to say “sorry” without really feeling anything. Neither is to stay broken with the other suffering, on the contrary, is to be strong to provide him comfort and support, help him see the hope that God provides him and his sadness prevents him to see.
As someone once said, “Empathy is the ability getting into the shoe on the other,” but to be truly empathetic, the shoe shouldn’t wear me “not too tight”, “neither too loose” must fit me ‘perfectly’.
How fix the “shoe” in your relationships with others?
© David García Licona – February 2014